Sunday, July 13, 2014

Flexible Rigidity

A few days ago, I set some goals for myself. Easy, reachable goals. Things that are doable. No seconds, no finishing the kids plates, and no snacking after supper. The first two have been no problem. The last one, I struggle with every day. The thing is I wind up getting something pretty much every night. Now my mind set is usually take no prisoners. Set the goal, do exactly that. And if I am fudging on it, I get down on myself (see my I want to be fast and PERFECT post from before.) So the last 3 days I have been snacking after supper. And as always, I get down on myself. And that invariably leads to the one thing I don't need. More snacking. I seriously have this logic loop. I already messed up, may as well do it big. I seriously think that. I consider myself mildly intelligent, so how do I fall for that self-sabotaging thinking?

So instead of rigidity proper, I decided to find some solution, some something that will keep me from de-railing if I snack after supper. I will make it a regimented event. I will do two things to insure that the snack is not a de-railing situation. First, I am going to fill this house with low calorie high nutrition snacks. Fruit, vegetables, yogurt, etc. Second, I am setting a schedule. If I am home, and I am craving a snack, then I will have a snack at 8 o'clock. The snack must be something that I can confidently say is not junk food. and it must be less than 200 calories.

Bridges are built with some wobble in them because otherwise they would fall from the stress if they were solid. I am building my bridge back to a healthy weight. I will need to remember to be flexible to be safe.

2 comments:

  1. Wonderful perspective in this post. You're extremely intelligent, Shane. And your behavior pattern in regards to snacking after supper have nothing to do with this fact. The human nature elements of this road we both travel, 9 times out of 10, transcends our intelligence. Some of the smartest people in the world are battling the same exact dynamics we are. So intelligence has nothing to do with this! You're handling this very well, my friend. You're making a plan and it will serve you well. LOVE your bridge analogy...wow---YES, YES, YES!!!

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  2. Perhaps plan snacks for the evening a week in advance and stick to what you plan? Stress is never a good thing. You will find what works for you!

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